As stated in my earlier post Tears & Tragedy in Unity, Maryland, Maryland has been home to multiple domestic murder-suicides by fathers in 2007. According to this post excerpt on Lary Holland's Family Court Reports blog:
Frederick Maryland is Calling YOUR Name: Fire Judge Dwyer!We are kicking off our event today titled FIRE JUDGE DWYER! I left voicemails for all of the clerks, letting them know first that I have a $1000.00 reward for whistleblowers and secondly that we are kicking off our FIRE JUDGE DWYER event beginning today. I am sure that it was pleasant for them to know because I do not think they all like their boss too much. Click the images below to print and help. We are passing them out everywhere and have thousands to finish off today! Help US Help YOU stop FAMILY COURT FROM KILLING YOUR FAMILIES!
For those of you unfamiliar with the issues, the Family Court in Frederick Maryland has been causing a noticeable amount of death in the past 6 months. Suicides, Homicides, Thanksgiving Massacres, and Arson with the common factor of the Frederick County Family Court System...
Make no mistake that these courts have done very ridiculous things to people that have led to increase suicides, increased homicides, and increased arson...A friend of mine and fellow advocate for equal parenting that has been denied competent counsel, pretrial access to witnesses, and pretrial evidence for his defense is currently being held in Frederick Maryland...More details about this man and his personal case will follow, pending an upcoming trial that has been rescheduled for December 3, 2007 (Monday) at 9:00am. I hope to see you all there...
Lary Holland also blogs at Lary Holland, The Family Courts Problem website, and is host of the Get Off the Bench Talk Show.
What do you think? Your comments welcome.
12 comments:
Fired? Good idea. Dwyer should be the guest of honor at a Texas Aggie style bonfire. That would fire his ass in an entirely appropriate manner.
Thanks Robin for the coverage on the issues in Maryland. The main issue with the local Frederick Court system is the amount of death that has occurred in the past 6 months here. It is simply too many families that have turned to drastic violence as a "way out" of the family court system.
Judge Dwyer just happens to head up the community's court where the latest tragedies have happened. He is not directly responsible for those violent outcomes. We need to focus on positive outcomes with these families instead of the current adversarial system that is destroying the community and society in general. Pitting parent against parent has disastrous consequences. We need to get the attention of legislators and judicial officers to discuss the critical nature of our family court system.
I hope people take the attention to make positive results through some political pressures, which hopefully draw people to the table to talk about the disastrous effects of family court. This is a greater problem than just one judge or one person. This is a problem associated with how the system works, not with the employees that are carrying out their day to day duties.
To stop the violence we need to end the hate: That includes hatred of men.
One nasty part of contempt for men is knowing full well that taking a man's children away from him will cause a suicide but taking the children away anyway. This is why Family Court Reform so often talks of suicide.
Some minority part of Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is a result of men KNOWING they will not be treated fairly in family court. Some is male victims exploding in hurt-rage.
These things are known. Yet, so very little is done to fix the problems and so very many people want to make the problems worse.
No one can predict who will 'go postal.' What we can predict is that without a sure knowledge that he can be heard and have his issues dealt with fairly, a certain small percentage of males will explode.
Robin: You talk of fathers as offenders in IPV. There are too many, no one disputes it. There are also mothers. A part of the problem is in talking of the fathers but not the mothers!
We see this here in Canada where we had 76 spousal homicides last year, 21 of them women killing their husband, (plus 1 man killing his gay partner). It's not that men killing their wife was the majority, it is that these are the ONLY ones mentioned or cared about. It is that all of the money and time goes to the majority. It is that all of the hate gets dumped on every man, including victims! It is that we employ people who hate men to 'advocate' for women.
Lary & JW, thanks for your comments.
I believe there are two levels on which change must occur: the legislative/judicial level, and the personal/family level.
On the legislative/judicial level, this IS a gender issue. How can we have a system that demands that fathers be responsible for some parental responsibilites, but prevents them from fulfilling others? It seems to me that the examples of how the Maryland family court served to throw gasoline on the fire illustrates how this system accelerates and increases tragedy and violence.
I believe that on the personal/family level, it should NOT be treated primarily as a gender issue, but as one of personal responsibility, ethics and social responsibility. I think grandparents need to step up their involvement and exert some pressure - not as advocates for their son or daughter but as advocates for their grandchildren who, like it or not, need a relationship with father AND mother. Churches need to be more relevant and proactive in promoting the principles these domestic combatants learned but are disregarding. I think society needs to take more responsibility for protecting these kids and telling the parents to take responsibility for their marriage and reproductive decisions, to start putting their kids first. To me, that's got to transcend gender.
We can't tackle this problem divided.
Terri Stoddard agrees with you on this issue. Here is the problem as Lary has pointed out. That there are huge Financial interests that benefit from the Adversarial process. Remittance Processing firms, Shrinks, Lawyers, Social Workers, Collection Services want to maintain the status quo. States benefit from Collection of Child Support, the get a cut of it.
So it is to their benefit to promote the concept that they are collecting the money. Not that it is being paid out. The fact is that Women's Shelters work with Divorce Attorneys. And Women who have been in shelters have been threatened with loss of custody if they don't file for Divorce.
The system is hopelessly full of conflict of interest, corruption, croneyism, and is broken. Judges are threatened by Feminists if they don't support Feminist policies.
Lary: you said Judge Dwyer just happens to head up the community's court where the latest tragedies have happened. He is not directly responsible for those violent outcomes... This is a greater problem than just one judge or one person. This is a problem associated with how the system works, not with the employees that are carrying out their day to day duties.
I'm confused. Why are you calling for Judge Dwyer to be fired? Won't someone else just take his place in the same corrupt system?
After reading a Washington Post account of the legal proceedings in which the judge admonishes both of the parents' vindictive behavior and calls on them to put the children's interest first, I'm not seeing where the court erred here. It seems like the judge did all he could to remedy the situation to the extent he was legally allowed and did not take sides. If the laws are wrong, why blame the judges who are mandated to enforce them?
Judge Dwyer should not be fired. He should be taken out at dawn and impaled on a pole in front of the courthouse by an angry mob of decent citizens demanding retribution for the mass murder he has been causing in their community.
Alienated by sisters who simply won't listen
Is an opinion piece that appears in a UK publication. About a new book."A Man In A Woman's World". It is written by a Man with authentic Feminist Credentials. He has turned his back on Feminism. Seeing it for what it has become a Hate Movement.
Some excerpts.
That they can lose the active support of Jackie Hayden is a dreadful indictment of feminists, writes Eilis O'Hanlon
He was also on the management committee of the Wexford Rape Crisis Centre for eight years, four of which were spent as chairperson. He was the first man in Ireland to hold such a position.
So when he says that, by the end of his time with the Rape Crisis Centres, he had "become thoroughly disillusioned with what I saw as a deeply hypocritical strain of anti-male sexism" there, and had come to see their attitudes as "fundamentally disempowering of women" thanks to a "constant tendency to portray the female of the species as helpless lumps of victimhood", then he surely deserves to be heard.
Jackie Hayden is not some caricature bar room boor, after all, but a child of the Sixties, fully signed up to anti-sexist, anti-racist spirit of the time. When he speaks out now against the disintegration of the feminist ideal into bitter sectionalism, it genuinely is more in sorrow than in anger.
Will Irish feminists listen to the advice of an old friend any more carefully than they do to those they see as their enemies? It's doubtful.
Feminism long ago retreated into its shell, dismissing all criticism as a misogynistic backlash -- which is why it is more like a cult, a cabalistic inner circle, these days than the intellectual and political force for change it could and should have been. The sisters simply don't listen anymore to anyone who doesn't sign up 100 per cent to the catechism. In that respect, Hayden is most likely wasting his breath, but he does it with such vigour and honesty that we should just be glad he did it anyway.
He has seen how women are allowed to joke about men in a belittling and derogatory way and no offence is allowed to be taken, whereas men are "permanently under scrutiny and threat" for the slightest remark. He knows that relations between the sexes are constantly shifting and under negotiation -- "Human behaviour," he writes, "is not robotically controlled." But still feminists speak as if all social and sexual interaction can be subject to cast-iron rules, with the severest punishments for transgression.
He also knows that women sometimes lie about their own sexual behaviour, and even about rape, but that's not supposed to be talked about openly lest the blame shift from where it really lies: namely, with men en masse.
Not for one moment does Jackie Hayden deny the reality of rape and sexual abuse. The statistics are all here, and they don't get any more palatable for being so familiar. What he objects to is the way in which feminists have demonised all men, and male sexual desire itself, as predatory and sinister.
One result of this has been to make every lighthearted or flirtatious conversation a potential cauldron for claims of harassment, especially in the workplace, though women frequently use their sexuality to get what they want without any of the same censure.
bob said: Bob said...
Judge Dwyer should not be fired. He should be taken out at dawn and impaled on a pole in front of the courthouse by an angry mob of decent citizens demanding retribution for the mass murder he has been causing in their community. December 2, 2007 8:12 AM"
Bob, if you insist on advocating violence, especially against elected officials, please do so on your bobstruth.blogspot.com site. Your irresponsible hatespeech isn't tolerated here.
Anonymous said: "Judges are threatened by Feminists if they don't support Feminist policies... States benefit from Collection of Child Support, the get a cut of it... So it is to their benefit to promote the concept that they are collecting the money."
Welcome to Crazytown...
Feminism long ago retreated into its shell, dismissing all criticism as a misogynistic backlash -- which is why it is more like a cult, a cabalistic inner circle, these days than the intellectual and political force for change it could and should have been.
I see you've bought the propaganda. Feminism is not about equality. It is about female supremacy.
I am a clerk and I work everyday in the courtroom. I sit in many custody trials, two sometimes three day trials. The Judge is forced to listen to all the B.S. and hatred the former lovers direct at each other. The lawyers KNOW much of it is pointless but it goes on and on. My Judge will look at the couple when it is over and as "Where are the grownups?" I have heard him lecture the parents and admonish them probably to no avail. For those types of people it is never about the children, it is about their anger, hurt, bitterness and refusal to move on. Sometimes it is only one parent, the mother or the father lashing out and creating never ending litigation. But it is the parent, then the lawyers keep it going and the Judge has to sit through it. How can a Judge be blamed for the filings of the parents? There are good and bad Judges, good and bad lawyers, good and bad parents, good and bad teachers so how can we blame the entire crappy system of a Judge?
I think change is needed at some level but not at the final step i the process.
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